I'm starting to notice something.....right around the age of 30, guys and girls have a major role-reversal. After 30 guys start to calm down. Most of us have serious jobs and if we're single, we're starting to either want to be in a relationship, or we've relegated ourselves to permanent bachelorhood (which involves lots of travel and cougars).
Girls, on the other hand, are hitting their sexual peak, they no longer care about their reputation, and they are ready to get wild. They drink a lot more and are physically aggressive.
I believe the role-reversal happens becuase guys are selfish in their 20s. Life is all about us, whereas women are usually wanting to pair-up and find a mate. At 30, guys start to want to pair up and find a mate, and women have either been divorced or had their heart majorly broken so they become selfish.
It's quite remarkable.
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
Why keep up the lie?
So I've been thinking about the word "friend" lately. A lot of people throw it around, but I take it seriously.
A couple of years ago I met a girl named "Alicia" who was all excited about making new friends. Over the next two years she proceeded to stab, re-stab, back-stab, and front stab anyone she possibly could if she thought it would make her life in anyway better. The thing is though, now no one takes her seriously. Even her "closest" friends make fun of the fact that she only talks to you if she wants something.
I've tried to figure out why she's this way, and my only conclusion is that it is due to low self-esteem. I don't think she likes herself and because of that she doesn't think she deserves loyalty, and since she doesn't deserve it she doesn't expect it, and since she doesn't expect it, she doesn't give it.
I feel sorry for her, I truly do. I mean, in reality, she's pretty pathetic and she's smart enough to know it. It must be disappointing to her how her life has worked out. I'm sure she's just trying to make the best out of a bad situation, but her actions are only making it worse. At this point, however, it is impossible for her to see what she is doing to herself, so I guess we'll all just continue to pretend to enjoy her company and wait until she eventually leaves to make fun of her.
A couple of years ago I met a girl named "Alicia" who was all excited about making new friends. Over the next two years she proceeded to stab, re-stab, back-stab, and front stab anyone she possibly could if she thought it would make her life in anyway better. The thing is though, now no one takes her seriously. Even her "closest" friends make fun of the fact that she only talks to you if she wants something.
I've tried to figure out why she's this way, and my only conclusion is that it is due to low self-esteem. I don't think she likes herself and because of that she doesn't think she deserves loyalty, and since she doesn't deserve it she doesn't expect it, and since she doesn't expect it, she doesn't give it.
I feel sorry for her, I truly do. I mean, in reality, she's pretty pathetic and she's smart enough to know it. It must be disappointing to her how her life has worked out. I'm sure she's just trying to make the best out of a bad situation, but her actions are only making it worse. At this point, however, it is impossible for her to see what she is doing to herself, so I guess we'll all just continue to pretend to enjoy her company and wait until she eventually leaves to make fun of her.
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Rumors......
So, recently there was a rumor about me that I punched a guy while at a club. My first response was: WHAT!? REALLY!? WHO WOULD BE DUMB ENOUGH TO BELIEVE THAT?? Evidently, more people than I thought. Nonetheless, this is a perfect example of why it is important to have quality friends, upon hearing the rumor, they immediately told me about it so that I could protect my good name. Seeing as how I'm a PR professional, killing this rumor was easy. However, throughout this process I learned something very valuable about rumors:
If you want to kill the rumor, expose the motive.
Every rumor has a motive, and you can usually decipher the motive by finding out who started the rumor (hint, they are usually the person spreading the rumor with the most veracity). Rumors are what weak people use to discredit those whom they wish to hurt. The strong (like myself) don't need to resort to rumors because we realize that everyone has enough true statements about themselves to destroy them with. Why make something up when you don't have to? That and once you are exposed for spreading a false rumor, you end up looking like an idiot.
This rumor in particular was being used as a smoke screen. A feeble attempt to distract from the charlie foxtrot (all my military buddies will get that, if you don't, email me) that is their life. I can't begrudge them that. Everyone wants to be interesting and important, but not everyone is. I suggest that if this applies to you, you just deal with it, if you can't you'll probably end up doing something that might temporarily make you look more important or interesting than you are but eventually it will catch up to you. No matter how many times you stir it, your crap will end up floating to the top and everyone will smell it.
If you want to kill the rumor, expose the motive.
Every rumor has a motive, and you can usually decipher the motive by finding out who started the rumor (hint, they are usually the person spreading the rumor with the most veracity). Rumors are what weak people use to discredit those whom they wish to hurt. The strong (like myself) don't need to resort to rumors because we realize that everyone has enough true statements about themselves to destroy them with. Why make something up when you don't have to? That and once you are exposed for spreading a false rumor, you end up looking like an idiot.
This rumor in particular was being used as a smoke screen. A feeble attempt to distract from the charlie foxtrot (all my military buddies will get that, if you don't, email me) that is their life. I can't begrudge them that. Everyone wants to be interesting and important, but not everyone is. I suggest that if this applies to you, you just deal with it, if you can't you'll probably end up doing something that might temporarily make you look more important or interesting than you are but eventually it will catch up to you. No matter how many times you stir it, your crap will end up floating to the top and everyone will smell it.
Come one...come all....to the greatest show on earth!
Life.......where to begin? I dedicate this blog to myself. I need an outlet, and my journal isn't cutting it. Not to say that my journal isn't important to me, but it is WAY too self-reflective. This blog isn't about learning life lessons, or finding myself. It is about sharing the crap that happens on a day-to-day basis with the internet.
I moved here about 3 years ago, and it has been a crazy time. Recently I've really felt that I'm coming into my own, and what's funny about it is that the keys to my happiness were there all along. I have a great group of friends, an understanding girlfriend (which is saying a lot because there is a lot that is difficult to understand about me), and the best boss I've ever had (which, incidentally is a big deal because a little over a year ago I was working for the worst, most idiotic boss I've ever had).
Anyways, buckle up, put your trays in the upright position, and prepare for the in flight entertainment. This is the remix, if you didn't know, know you know fool
I moved here about 3 years ago, and it has been a crazy time. Recently I've really felt that I'm coming into my own, and what's funny about it is that the keys to my happiness were there all along. I have a great group of friends, an understanding girlfriend (which is saying a lot because there is a lot that is difficult to understand about me), and the best boss I've ever had (which, incidentally is a big deal because a little over a year ago I was working for the worst, most idiotic boss I've ever had).
Anyways, buckle up, put your trays in the upright position, and prepare for the in flight entertainment. This is the remix, if you didn't know, know you know fool
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